Just Because You're Married To A Hard Working Christian Man Doesn't Mean You'll Share In All His Rewards

1st Corinthians 3:6-8, “I have planted, Apollos watered; but God gave the increase. So then neither is he that planteth any thing, neither he that watereth; but God that giveth the increase. Now he that planteth and he that watereth are one: and every man shall receive his own reward according to his own labour.”

I know this is kind of a strange title for a blog, but it's an important truth that I want to teach others. I used to think that if you're married to someone who works hard for the Lord, then that spouse will also have great rewards in Heaven. But then it occurred to me that the inspired Holy Bible does not teach that. In fact, not at all! What the Bible does teach is found in our text passage of Scripture from 1st Corinthians 3:8b, “...and every man shall receive his own reward according to his own labour.”

Dear female reader, I don't care if your husband is the hardest work fella in town, you won't receive any rewards at the Judgment Seat of Christ if you are a lazy, unreliable, burden for a wife to your husband. God is not going to reward you for dragging down your husband emotionally, giving him a hard time, sassing him continually and making his life miserable. Serving your husband is the way that a wife serves God...

Ephesians 5:22-24, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”

I know a Christian married couple. The man's wife is foolish. Whenever she gets angry at him, she goes to women's shelters for months and claims “abuse.” The man is not abusive toward her, quite the opposite. She is lazy and refuses to fulfill her duties in the marriage. Her husband has to correct her for leaving shoes, items and clothes in the middle of the floor. She is careless. Worse, his wife is rebellious and every time he corrects her (which he has a biblical right to do as her authority). She is defiant and punishes him by leaving for months at a time to go to shelters. Back centuries ago when people had marital struggles they had no choice but to tough it out, but that's not the case at all today. Many women are spoiled brats!

Her husband is a hard working fella in his work and ministry. I can assure you that his problematic wife will not share in his glory and rewards in Heaven someday, when all she did was make his life miserable. She never does his laundry. She rarely cooks him a decent meal. She has to be asked to do the things that a wife is supposed to do, but it goes back to her being as lazy as a hound. Laziness is a horrible sin!

Marriage is the only business contract where one party can fail to uphold their side and still receive benefits. Until marriage becomes a partnership and not a legal liability men will continue to keep saying, “No thanks!”

A Wife's Purpose is To Be Her Husband's 'Help Meet'

Dear female reader, if you are a wife it is YOUR JOB to be a help meet to your hubby. Genesis 2:18, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” If you take issue with the biblical idea of your husband being your “boss,” then you need to get right with God. I say that humbly with kindness. I do not intend to be offensive, God knows my heart.

We have a serious problem in America today with feminism, which is rebellion against God-ordained authority in the home. What saith the Scripture? 1st Samuel 15:23, “For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, he hath also rejected thee from being king.” When you women mouth-off to your husband, sassing and making inflammatory remarks that push his buttons to anger him, you are on par with a witch who worships Satan! I didn't say that, your Creator did. The $64,000 question is: DO YOU CARE?

If at this point you are upset and asking, “Well what about my husband?,” then you really have some attitude issues that need to be addressed. I am being your friend. The main reason why so many married women are empowered, angry and rebellious today is simply because they can be. Our American culture has deteriorated over the past 75 years. Abortion is now legal. Homosexuality is everywhere in society today. Women only wear dental floss at the beach. The churches are empty because the pulpits are spiritually dead. Evil abounds.

U.S. women gained the right to vote with the ratification of the 19th Amendment on August 18, 1920. However, the struggle for women's rights began much earlier, with significant activism dating back to the mid-19th century. Now, I know that very few people will like or agree with what I am about to say, but it is 100% absolutely true nonetheless. I humbly think we were much better off when women had no rights.

Back in the old days of America men ran society, the way it ought to be. Women should have no place in politics. I realize that this statement will harelip every dog in the county, but God ordained that men and not women make societal decisions. God forbid the day when a rebellious feminist clown like Kamala Harris becomes our U.S. President (and she is talking about running again in 2028 for U.S. President). Isaiah 3:12, “As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths.” I assure you that when the Democrats reclaim the White House, you will see evil flourish in our country like never before. They will bring back all the D.E.I. (diversity, equality and inclusion) perversion, transgender confusion and utter depraved wickedness! God's judgment will not sleep forever!

U.S. women did not have many legal rights until the late 19th and early 20th centuries. For example, women were largely considered property of their husbands and could not vote, own property, or access credit independently until various laws were enacted, such as the Married Women's Property Act in 1848 and the 19th Amendment in 1920. Like it or not, God wants men to lead society, the churches, the home and marriage. As Isaiah 3:12 warns, when women lead society bad things begin to happen and they ruin things! God said that!

I am not down on women, which some feminist is no doubt already accusing me of. I simply believe the inspired Holy Bible. 1st Timothy 5:14-15, “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. For some are already turned aside after Satan.” Again, like it or not, the Bible calls career when “turned aside after Satan.” God hates the vile shacking-up culture that bar hops from nightclub to nightclub, fornicating, having abortions and defying God.

A Rebellious Wife is Dead While She Liveth

I heard an interesting sermon today by Pastor Jack Hyles called: “Oh Brother, You're Inhuman.” I made this sermon excerpt from the message that I titled: “She Is Dead Living In Pleasure.” 1st Timothy 5:6, “But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth.” Dr. Hyles said this verse doesn't mean you're dead for drinking booze, stealing, smoking cigarettes, whoring around or committing other sins; but rather, it means if you are living outside of the will of God for your life, you are spiritually dead.

In the sermon, Pastor Hyles explains that there are three types of life:

1. plant (body)
2. animal (body & soul)
3. human (body, soul & spirit)

So, when we live outside of the will of God, we are spiritually dead and living at the same level as animals, who have no spirit. This is what Brother Hyles means by the interesting title of his sermon: “Oh Brother, You're Inhuman.”

God Will Only Reward You For Your Own Labors

1st Corinthians 3:8, “Now he that planteth and he that watereth are one: and every man shall receive his own reward according to his own labour.”

I don't care how hard your husband works for the Lord Jesus Christ, you are only going to be rewarded ladies for YOUR OWN labors. So, yes, you will be rewarded in eternity for cleaning the house, doing the dishes, scrubbing toilets, mopping floors, carpet shampooing, loving on your hubby, spending hours preparing decent home cooked meals, washing and drying the clothes, helping the children with their homework, feeding the family's pet dog, praying, sewing, and a hundred other duties of a homemaker. It's all a part of being a HELP MEET to your husband. God takes this matter of a wife submitting to her husband VERY seriously...

Ephesians 5:22-24, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”

Just because you are married to a Christian husband who labors night and day for Christ doesn't guarantee you rewards in Heaven ladies. The inspired Holy Bible is very plain that we will all be rewarded only for OUR OWN labors done for Christ. Since the Scripture plainly teaches that younger women (i.e., any woman of child bearing age) should be married with children and a homemaker, then that is God's perfect will for every young woman's life.

Every Christian wife and mother in Heaven will only receive rewards for what she did to help her husband and obey him. A wife that leaves her husband yet does many good works for others won't be rewarded by God because she was A.W.O.L. It is no different than if a military soldier abandons his designated post. That soldier can go do great things for others. He may go home and help his mother work around the house. He may go and save someone's life. But he will not be rewarded by the U.S. military because he went A.W.O.L. (absent without leave). A wife who abandons her husband is A.W.O.L. and won't receive any rewards from God.

There's No Greater Role Than Being a Homemaker

I read about a young Christian lady many years ago who chose not to get married or have children. Instead, she opted to work as the lifelong secretary for an evangelist. A doctor had proposed to her for marriage, but she turned him down. I personally don't like that at all. In fact, it bothers me a lot. That well-known preacher was married with a wife at home for companionship, but he allowed his young attractive secretary to forgo a happily married life with children and grandchildren.

After diligently working for that evangelist for over 40 years, the elderly preacher died when his secretary was 65 years old. She spent the last 27 years of her life all alone, with no children and no grandchildren. That selfish evangelist has six children and 28 grandchildren. In my humble opinion, God did not create a young woman to be the lifelong secretary for a preacher. I truly feel sorry for that secretary. I'm sure that she would disagree, but that is how I feel.

Call me whatever you want dear reader, but I am old fashioned and biblical in my mindset. I tell people that I am as narrow-minded as the inspired King James Bible. I firmly still believe in 2026 that a woman's place is in the home.

According to the BBC, women in the workplace, particularly those who achieve promotions, are statistically more likely to experience divorce compared to their male counterparts. This phenomenon is attributed to the stress and changing dynamics in relationships that arise from shifts in economic and social roles. No wonder the Bible calls career females “turned aside after Satan.” The inspired Word of God uses some powerful language that is no doubt highly offensive to feminists today. According to the Wheatley Institute in Utah, married mothers with children are TWICE as likely to be “VERY HAPPY” than single childless women.