The Ungodly Wife Has It All Backwards

1st Peter 3:1-2, “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.”

The inspired King James Bible teaches that if a wicked, lost or backslidden husband won't listen to the inspired Word of God, he may still be won by the manner of life (of conversation) of his own wife, seeing her fear of God. A godly wife has more influence over her own husband oftentimes than does God, as we see evidenced in Eve's influence over Adam in the Garden of Eden.

Tragically, many Christian wives have it all backwards. I have heard of countless cases where a wife insisted that her husband go for counseling, or go to church, or do something else, or she would divorce him. And many husbands would rather be divorced than to succumb to a rebellious wife! Hey, I dare you to try threatening God and see if He buckles ladies!

The carnal wife tries to force her husband to obey her; but the godly wife leads her husband by example in the fear of God, as the Holy Bible teaches. You will never force a real man to succumb to your will ladies. You may boss a wimp around, and get him to jump through your hoops; but not a genuine man. Many divorces have resulted because of a rebellious wife who refused to follow God's inspired Word. If she cannot get her way, then she files for divorce. Woe be unto that wife in eternity when she stands before God in judgment.

You cannot show me one verse in the entire Holy Bible that commands a husband to submit to his wife in any matter. No, you cannot! What saith the Scripture?

Ephesians 5:22, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”

Whenever I quote this passage of Scripture, nearly every time rebellious people will immediately run to the other Sculpture passages about a husband's duty to love his wife, and of submitting one to another in the fear of the Lord. They cannot stand it! Rebellious wives and complicit henpecked men resent today's feminist ideologies. They absolutely cannot stand the idea (biblical truth) that a wife is commanded to obey her husband IN EVERY THING. Not in some things, but in everything. If it's not illegal, immoral or unsafe, she must obey her husband, so says God.

I heard Pastor Jack Hyles say in a sermon, that once his wife ordered him to go change their son's diaper, but Brother Hyles refused to do it. She told him again, but he didn't budge. She finally figured it out that she needed to ask him kindly, and say “please,” before he would do it. That is 100% biblical. Shame on the defiant wife who attempts to tell her husband what to do!

Most so-called “Christian” women today are feminists and don't even realize it. If you sass your husband, fail to do his laundry, cook him decent meals, and threaten to divorce him if he doesn't obey you—you are a dirty feminist! I speak to the utter shame of many women today.

American women in particular have been groomed by our rotten corrupt ungodly culture to quit when the going gets tough, to abandon ship and file for divorce, looking for greener pastures. Jeremiah 3:20, “Surely as a wife treacherously departeth from her husband, so have ye dealt treacherously with me, O house of Israel, saith the LORD.”

Ladies, you will never get your husband to do what you need and want him to do by putting ultimatums on him to, “Do this or else!” Sorry, it doesn't work that way. The God who created the universe and all therein has already told you what to do in 1st Peter 3:1-2, “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.”

If you want to reach your difficult husband, then the only way is for you to lead him by godly example, by you being submissive to him in the fear of God.

• Being lazy and not picking up your shoes and clothes, that your husband has asked you repeatedly to pick up, is rebellion.
• Abandoning your husband and refusing to come home is rebellion, causing far more damage than anything good.
• Smarting off to your husband on the telephone is rebellion, not constructive to repair your damaged marriage.
• Behaving as a spoiled brat as a wife instead of a responsible adult is rebellion.
• Demanding that your husband go for counseling or else you're filing for divorce is rebellion, not leading by godly example.
• Filing for a divorce is evil rebellion which brings the judgment of God.

1st Samuel 15:23a, “For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry...” We are living in a society and generation of spoiled brats for wives today. Get mad at me if you want. I am so sick and tired of women countering this type of Bible preaching by going after the men. GET RIGHT WITH GOD AMERICA!!!

That all being said, I do not intend any unkindness dear reader. I full understand that we are all guilty sinners, and we all have faults and shortcomings. But at age 59 I have seen a lot in my lifetime, and women today are a spiritual mess because of the evil influence of feminism. Please obey your husband. This is God's will for your life.

Lead Your Husband by Example by Submitting To Him; Don't Force Him To Submit To You

Please understand that I did not write this article to bash women, God forbid. I wrote this article to emphasize the important biblical truth ladies that you can influence your difficult husband by your manner of life. Although your husband is supposed to lead the home spiritually; if he does not, then you need to continue to obey him in every thing coupled with the fear of God. That is very important. You're not just submitting to your husband, you are doing so because YOU FEAR GOD. You fear Him because one day you must give account. As your husband sees your fear of God, he will fall into line, if there is any hope for him. 

Regardless of where your husband is at on a spiritual level, you need to be the godly example that the Lord intended for you to be. There is an old adage that is very true: “You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.” Making demands of your hubby, sassing him in anger, screaming at the top of your lungs and threatening him, is what a fool does.

King Solomon had quite a bit to say about women in the Proverbs, and he should know, because he had 700 wives and 300 concubines living in his palace. Proverbs 14:1, “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”