Women Today Have The Wrong Attitude Toward Marriage

1st Timothy 5:14-15, “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. For some are already turned aside after Satan.”

I have been divorced since 2006, when my wife chose to abandon me. I have lived as a bachelor all these past 15 years. I do get lonely often, but I have had complete peace living alone, versus the constant turmoil when I was married for 18 years. I signed up for eHarmony in 2017. They have a lot more women than men on eHarmony, so I only pay $5.95 per month. They're hurting for men who want to get married. Many men today are whoremongers, hanging out on Tinder or Plenty-O-Fish. I don't have those social media accounts and don't want them! I desire to remarry someday, but I cannot find a woman who is interested. I have written to dozens of women on eHarmony, but they are picky and don't want me. They're all looking for a guy who is rich, 6' tall, dark hair and a professional. I'm bald on top, 5' 7", live on disability income and I'm just a normal guy. Women are so wacky these days. 

Here is what I mean by wacky. I read this profile today that was sent to me as a potential match by eHarmony. Her name is Danielle, she is an attractive 35 year old, and she lives in Massachusetts. She is 5' 9" and owns her own business as a chef. She is single with no children, but wants children. Read what she is looking for in a man:

I have a career that I love and worked hard for, now I’m interested in meeting someone to share my life with. I still dedicate much of my time to my business, but have learned to balance my free time and enjoy going to the beach with my dog, eating out at new restaurants, and traveling whenever I can. My home away from home is Paris, and I can’t wait til I’m able to get back. I would love to meet someone who I can share my free time with, but also maintain a healthy level of independence. [emphasis mine]

She is on eHarmony looking for a husband, but she only has “free time” available. She wants a man as an “add on” to her busy “career.” She insists on maintaining her independence. And somehow in her busy career that she's worked so hard for, she wants to have children? Kindly said, I wouldn't touch her with a 10-foot pole! She is your typical diseased American woman who only wants a man to use as a tool to get what she wants, in this case children. Her attitude is all wrong and I seriously doubt if she'll find a man who wants to marry her, IN HER FREE TIME!!!

I didn't write this blog to be mean or judge Danielle. I wrote this to speak sense to any single women who might read this. Please ladies, you cannot expect to find a man who wants to be second, third or fourth place in your life to a career, children, family, a former boyfriend or husband or anything else. I see profiles of women who say their children will always come first. Good luck finding a husband! Women expect a man to pay all the bills and support the family (and he should), but then they want him to come in third or fourth place in her life. That is a wrong mindset! I've even read widow's profiles where they say they want a husband, but no man will ever compare to their former husband. Good luck finding a guy!

God created a woman to be her husband's “help meet,” not to be a mother, pursue a career, guide a home, or anything else. Genesis 2:18, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Her husband is her purpose in life. If you don't like that, don't look for a Christian man to marry, because you won't be happy. And you definitely won't be happy with the immoral playboy you'll find that has no Christian values. If you want a love 'em and leave 'em kind of guy, then go to Tinder. 

Women want the best of both worlds, but they cannot have it! You cannot maintain your independence, put your children first over your husband, only offer free time to build a meaningful relationship that leads to marriage, and sanely expect to meet someone. Men want to be first. Men want a good deal, not a raw deal. Women these days offer so little, but demand so much. That is why of the dozens of women I have contacted, no one wants me. Perhaps they are doing me a favor. Most women don't even bother to write back. Being on Guam doesn't help. I really need to move, but am overwhelmed with the whole thing.

When I attended the Harvest Baptist Church of Guam in 2013-2014, I fell in love with their nurse, Kris. She liked me too, which I know as sure as I am saved. When their pastors drove me out of their church, I missed Kris a lot. I thought about her every day for years to come. On February 21, 2017 I saw her in public, at Asan Beach Park in her hammock, and finally told her how I felt. She was still single. So I wrote her a long love letter and expressed my intent to properly court her at church, which would hopefully lead to marriage. Her pastors (Marty Herron and Joe Hanson) cruelly refused to allow me to return to attend church, even admitting that they didn't want me dating Kris. I wish those ungodly hypocrites could lose their wives and be alone, sharing my inexplicable pain. Shame on them for playing God with people's lives. Harvest Baptist Church is a devil's house.

So Kris sent me a mean letter, cruelly calling me a “father image” (she's no spring chicken) and told me never to contact her again. I abided by what she wrote, but it hurt more than I can put in words. I felt like committing suicide. I still love Kris in 2021, and would have married her at any point if she simply had contacted me, saying that she changed her mind. She moved away and that's that. You cannot tell a guy never to contact you again, and expect to find a husband. She will never find a guy like me, that I know. She might find some religious guy that goes through the motions, but she'll never find a man that loves her more than I do. She has a wrong attitude. She is a nurse trained at Bob Jones University, having pursued a career over marriage. God says she is turned aside after Satan (1st Timothy 5:14-15).

Women today have wrong attitudes toward men and marriage. I may never find a wife in America, because of all the wrong attitudes that are prevalent in society today, and that definitely includes the churches. They're all still part of our decaying American culture.